How chain-smoking, tattooed Lady Venetia Baring – who claims her grandmother ‘didn’t really like’ Princess Diana – says she lives ‘paycheque to paycheque’

A chain-smoking 25-year-old socialite covered in tattoos who says she lives ‘paycheque to paycheque’ is hoping to be the new ‘casual’ face of aristocracy.

Lady Venetia Baring wants to show people that it doesn’t have to be ‘some stuffy, antiquated and possibly ignorant existence’.

Talk to Tatlerthe daughter of the 4th Earl of Cromer and his second wife Shelley Hu Cheng-Yu, has opened up about carving out her own identity despite a strict, stately upbringing.

She has appeared in campaigns for Nike and Dr Martens – even a small cameo in Disney’s 2023 superhero film The Marvels.

Despite being related to two opulent families, the Barings and the Rothermeres, Venetia says her life is that of an ordinary person.

Speaking to Tatler, Lady Venetia Baring - the daughter of the 4th Earl of Cromer - opened up about carving out her own identity despite her strict, stately upbringing

Speaking to Tatler, Lady Venetia Baring – the daughter of the 4th Earl of Cromer – opened up about carving out her own identity despite her strict, stately upbringing

‘Some people automatically think I have a stately home and a butler. And that’s not my life,’ she told the outlet.

The social media savvy model, who has 19,500 followers Instagraminsisted that none of her friends even knew she had a title.

Venetia – who recently spent time enjoying the company of some of society’s best and brightest, including Princess Vittoria of Savoy, Freddie Knatchbull and Tara DuRoss – explained at Tatler’s Little Black Book party how her aesthetic as her form of rebellion.

The aristocrat’s public display of brightly colored hair, piercings and ‘tomboy’ fashion is a way to ‘celebrate her body’ and ‘feel empowered’.

Her childhood saw Venetia growing up between houses in Sloane Square, Somerset – at a Grade II-listed ex-parsonage which has now been sold – and Thailand.

At the age of 10, Venetia was sent to a boarding school, St Mary’s Calne in Wiltshire, where she enjoyed seven great years of memories and made lifelong friends.

But her rebellious nature shone through even then – she was caught smoking, sneaked out of school and even made secret trips to London for squat raves.

After graduating, she enrolled at the University of Manchester to study art history, but found it surprisingly difficult to connect with people who were from a similar educational background to her.

Venetia said: ‘They were all on my course. I mean, only boarding school people do art history. But they just weren’t, like, welcoming to me. It was a bit confusing. So I went out and made my own friends.’

The aristocrat's public display of her brightly colored hair, piercings and 'tomboy' fashion is a way to 'celebrate her body' and 'feel empowered'

The aristocrat’s public display of her brightly colored hair, piercings and ‘tomboy’ fashion is a way to ‘celebrate her body’ and ‘feel empowered’

Venetia - who is also close to her brother Alexander - has also reconnected with her mum Shelley, who also lives in London and owns a jewelery business, and admits she wants the pair to take a bonding trip to China together .

Venetia – who is also close to her brother Alexander – has also reconnected with her mum Shelley, who also lives in London and owns a jewelery business, and admits she wants the pair to take a bonding trip to China together .

With uni came her parents’ divorce – which sent Venetia into a depression, affecting her studies – as her mum and dad ‘dragged her really hard into it’.

She moved back to the capital in 2018, where her mental health improved after she started bartending in Brixton’s Canova Hall. There she met her boyfriend Sasha, who worked as a chef. The couple recently celebrated their four-year anniversary.

Venetia – who is also close to her brother Alexander – has also since reconnected with her mother Shelley, who also lives in London and has a jewelery business, and has admitted she wants the pair to take a bonding trip to China together undertake

However, she drifted away from her father – Evelyn (77).

“He’s remarried to a very beautiful, young Thai girl … it’s a bit complicated,” she admitted. ‘As I get older, I realize that she (Shelley) was very hurt and that he (Evelyn) was panicking. And, like, they’re human, they’re always going to mess up, like us. So I shouldn’t expect too much.’

In her online portfolio, Venetia says she runs a workshop called Divurgent for creatives – ‘where models, photographers and creatives can come together, learn and grow to hone their skills, and build a community here in London ‘.

She moved back to the capital in 2018, where her mental health improved after she started bartending in Brixton's Canova Hall.  There she met her boyfriend Sasha (both pictured) who worked as a chef

She moved back to the capital in 2018, where her mental health improved after she started bartending in Brixton’s Canova Hall. There she met her boyfriend Sasha (both pictured) who worked as a chef

In her online portfolio, Venetia says she runs a workshop called Divurgent for creative people.  In the photo with her guinea pig

In her online portfolio, Venetia says that she runs a workshop called Divurgent for creative people. In the photo with her guinea pig

A chain-smoking 25-year-old tattoo-covered socialite who says she lives 'paycheque to paycheque' hopes to be the new 'unlazy' face of artistocracy and wants to show people it doesn't have to be 'some stuffy' , outdated and possibly ignorant existence'

A chain-smoking 25-year-old tattoo-covered socialite who says she lives ‘paycheque to paycheque’ hopes to be the new ‘unlazy’ face of artistocracy and wants to show people it doesn’t have to be ‘some stuffy’ , outdated and possibly ignorant existence’

It comes as Lord Cromer responded in a withering letter to The Times to claims from his daughter’s Tatler interview that his mother was not a fan of the late Princess Diana.

“Lady Venetia Baring claims that my late mother, the Dowager Countess of Cromer, said ‘She really didn’t like Diana’ and that ‘Diana needs a grip,'” he said.

The ex-Etonian peer then made it clear that, in his view, it was inconceivable that his mother would ever have uttered such words, noting that she had ‘served the late Queen for 17 years and was rewarded for her loyalty, work and affection by a CVO’.

“Throughout her long service my mother was the soul of discretion,” he added, pointing out that his mother would ‘no doubt’ have learned the need for such discretion while married to his father, who was successively Governor of the Bank of England wash. then British ambassador in Washington.

‘It would be quite strange for my mother to make a remark about a member of the royal family to anyone, least of all to one of her grandchildren,’ concludes Lord Cromer, ‘and especially to Lady Venetia Baring, my daughter, who was born after the death of Diana, Princess of Wales.’

Evelyn is now divorced from Venetia’s mother, Shelley, and lives in Thailand with his third wife, Jiraporn Buengman.

See the full feature in the February issue of Tatler available via digital download and on newsstands from Thursday 1 February.