JANA HOCKING: Sydney men are furious with me for saying they’re the worst to date – but it’s time they looked in the mirror (and joined a gym)

Oh, Lord, did I upset some people last week. And by some people I mean half the male population of Australia. Oh, I made them very angry! Still, I wholeheartedly stand by what I said.

To sum it up very quickly, I just got back from an adventurous trip to New York and came off the horny vibes the city left me with.

The men there have no shame. They’ll bump into you in the grocery line, at a park, even the security desk at JFK airport. I said Aussie men should take note because they have a bit of a ‘snort’ in the courtship department.

A curtsy in our direction or a swipe on the dating apps is about as far as they’ll go to woo us, and I for one have gotten really bored with that.

Anyway, the men didn’t like my take on this. Oh no. The best word to describe the reaction is activated. I’ve woken up to literal essays on Instagram with men rambling on and on and on about how we women are too caught up these days — that we need to get over ourselves and search about how they never get a look.

Sigh.

Jana Hocking went to New York (pictured) and said the men there were much more proactive when it came to approaching women.  Aussie men were not happy about it

Jana Hocking went to New York (pictured) and said the men there were much more proactive when it came to approaching women. Aussie men were not happy about it

As I scrolled through message after message, there was one thing that really stood out to me: these men were no oil paintings. Most were overweight, unkempt with messy stubble or scraggly beards, beer bellies, bad haircuts. Oh, and don’t even get me started on the clothes. They didn’t exactly scream “I’m a catch”.

They were basically hot messes and yet here they were nagging me about women not wanting to date them. No, of course we don’t. Because it looks like you need a tetanus shot and a healthy dose of vegetables.

What these guys didn’t understand was something oh so simple. People are attracted to people who look put together.

I didn’t say handsome, I said put together. What we present to the world is what we attract. It’s basic science.

Holding up a dead fish while decked out in a pair of ripped boardies with a big ol’ beer belly hanging over the top doesn’t make our ovaries hum with a desperate need to procreate with you.

'The men in New York (pictured) have no shame.  They'll bump into you in the grocery line, at a park, even the security desk at JFK airport.  I said Aussie men should take note because they've become a bit 'snorky' in the courtship department,' she said

‘The men in New York (pictured) have no shame. They’ll bump into you in the grocery line, at a park, even the security desk at JFK airport. I said Aussie men should take note because they’ve become a bit ‘snorky’ in the courtship department,’ she said

With a healthy fitness plan and a better diet, you'll find that not only will you start hooking up with the ladies, but you'll also feel a whole lot better about yourself,

With a healthy fitness plan and a better diet, you’ll find that you’ll not only start hooking up with the ladies, but you’ll also feel a whole lot better about yourself,” Jana said.

Mike Thurston, a popular health and fitness YouTuber with over a million followers on Instagram, put it well in a recent podcast.

‘I don’t understand why all men don’t want to try to improve their physique and how they look. It’s crazy how many doors it’s opened for me, and the confidence it’s given me,’ he said. ‘If you’re unhappy with your life, or something isn’t going right, the easiest thing you can do is start working on your physical appearance, and the benefits are serotonin and self-confidence. Good things start coming after that.’

And it comes from a short king who lets the ladies stand for him. As much as we don’t want to believe what he says, it is true.

I remember a guy at a party I went to late last year. Was his face attractive? Not really. He had a block head, but what he did have was a healthy tan, and ripped muscles. The girls at the party went wild for him. All this guy did was go to the gym a few times a week and get some sun. It didn’t take a huge bank account or high-paying job for the women to stream.

So guys, quit your bitching and sign up for a gym membership. It’s literally that easy. We women put in a lot more effort, whether it’s wearing nice perfume, dressing up for a date, getting our legs waxed, Botox, fillers, but many men don’t put in the same effort but want the same outcome. Ridiculous!

About a year ago, I was scrolling through the messages on my phone and came across a guy with a simple request. He explained that he doesn’t get any swipes on his dating profile, and would be fine if he sent me some screenshots and I could tell him where he’s going wrong.

I appreciated the courage it took to ask me that, so I said ‘go ahead’. Within minutes I assessed his Tinder profile and could see exactly where he was going wrong and how he could fix it.

All the shots were from an unflattering angle in his truck. Some with a beard, some without. No friends in the photos, and it gave off slight ‘Wolf Creek’ vibes. If you know, you know.

'Quit your bitch and sign up for a gym membership.  It's literally that easy.  We women make a much bigger effort...yet many men don't make the same effort but want the same outcome,' she said

‘Quit your bitch and sign up for a gym membership. It’s literally that easy. We women make a much bigger effort…yet many men don’t make the same effort but want the same outcome,’ she said

I gave him three simple tasks. One, keep the beard (it flattered his face) but cut it just a bit, take the photos from higher up, and include him doing activities or hanging out with friends.

Two weeks later he sent me the most beautiful thank you message. He started getting matches and went on three dates – one of them seemed very hopeful.

I was shocked!

All the guy needed was a few adjustments to the way he presented himself to the world, and the world suddenly became his oyster.

So it’s time to take a good look in the mirror. With a healthy fitness plan and a better diet, you’ll find that not only do you start to look good to the ladies, but you’ll also feel a whole lot better about yourself.

So simple.